Many of us can recall as children when we played at dressing up. What fun it was to put on your mums high shoes, or flouncy dress. What a surge of pride for young boys who waded around in their dads work boots or shoes, puffed up and feeling important.
Dress up can still be fun. Hiring kilts for special occasions, getting prom dresses made, wedding dresses fitted. So many different ways to look and feel.
Regardless of the outward garb, we are still to remain the same person underneath. I believe the Lord wants to encourage anyone married to the pastor today, that God loves you as a spouse for exactly who you are. You don’t need to dress up to be anyone else. You are fearfully and wonderfully and uniquely made. More than that, we have all been made in God’s image. Who we are stems from confidence in our personal identity.
Our one and only true identity comes from who we are in Christ. Flowing from that place then, as Christian spouses, the main mandate we are to adhere to is primarily to reflect Jesus. Pray this may be the testimony of your journey. Love your Lord. Love yourself. Love your spouse. Love your life. Seek to love and to love well. Let love flow from you as you look to be a blessing in every area of life and especially in supporting your husband or wife in ministry.
My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. (John 15v12)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)
One time at a wedding the minister encouraged the newly wed couple to personalise the powerful words of 1 Corinthians 13. ‘I will be patient, I will be kind….’ And so on. Christ is perfect love, and when you walk in love you bless others and reflect His heart. So go on, Love as you are Loved.