Many pastors and leaders have an understanding of the biblical response to being hurt and wounded. There are a myriad of examples, along with the very directives of Jesus, and countless books written on the subject. Chapter and verse may be easy to quote to others who come looking for advice, but it can be a lot harder to actually practice forgiveness ourselves. ‘Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.’ (CS Lewis)
Over the years, and especially through the work of ESPS Ministries, we have met many in ministry and leadership who have been deeply hurt and wounded, and often unjustly. Sometimes from other leaders, congregational members, or friends. Any experiences of opposition, betrayal, poor treatment of your family, etc. are hard issues to wrestle with. But wrestle we need to do, until we can find the peace and heart of God to free us up in the process of forgiveness.
Holding on to unforgiveness damages us physically, spiritually, and emotionally. It hurts us, not the perpetrator.
Through our weekly blogs we often share great articles here from our friend Rev Kenny Borthwick. Kenny has been working on vlogs recently in lockdown, and has been dealing with the topic of forgiveness. And has done so wonderfully. His thoughts are wise and insightful as he relates to some of his own hurtful experiences in ministry and the journey with God towards forgiveness.
Friend, perhaps in this season there is time and quietness to pause and connect with yourself. Opportunity to confront feelings of brokenness, hurt, and unforgiveness that have crept into your life over time. God bless, heal, and restore, as you follow the links below and trust your vulnerabilities and wounds to a loving, healing, heavenly Father.
Vlog no.7 - ‘Don’t confuse forgiving with not hurting’ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n2JK0oA-Tms
Vlog no.8 - ‘Does forgiveness from the heart demand embrace?’